One big friend
Posted by pricklykina on June 3, 2008
I’ve been spending a bit of time lately talking awy on facebook chat.
I’ve come to realise that I engage in the same way with everybody.
Strange
It came about when I was chatting to someone that i haven’t seen for seven year, I was chatting in the same way that I chat to my sister, to my friends that I see regularly. I thought Whoa! This isn’t natural.
If I saw someone that I was once close to that I hadn;t seen for some years I would effuse, I would enthuse, I would in general bubble over. But here I was talking in this neutral kind of way.
I wondered what could be happening.
What I think was happening was that I view the “other” as one big entitity. The words are not enough to define individuality. yesterday I felt bored an really unconnected. what’s the point in engaging in this way when it is all so neutral? Yesterday I felt deeply unsatisfied.
Today however, I reflect on hhow relationships need to build online. That 10 minutes of back and forth with and old friends is unsatisfactory but building that relationship, through regular contact may change that, and reduce the ennui.
Am I alone in experiencing this? What are the implications for counselling?
