Making new friends

My boss asked to be my facebook friend today. Not, like. my immediate boss but my big big boss.

I balked.

I said no.

Usually I find it hard to say no to the big big boss. But this no came out like water under pressure.

I think I may have even whined “but then I’d have to self edit”

Refelcting on this I wondered why i had this reaction. This guy knows me, employs me, sees me most days. My facebook was has always had a degree of reticence about it in case I ever want a job as a politician. So why would I be so fearful about him seeing “Me”

This realtes to that whole area of online presentation. Who are we? I feel like I’m authentic at work so whywould I be afrid of sharing. Certainly other work mates are on my face book. But I guess there’s heirarchy thing. What would he think if he knew”that”

As I write, I remind myself that I often am bothered by thinking about what others think of me. This is my own stuff and it’s great to reflect and see that this is what is happening. And that is the beauty of self reflection

He wants to read this blog too….not a chance!

The experience project

I seem to have been avoiding posting. I seem tohave been avoiding a lot of things. Seems that even in cyberspace I can’t escape from performance anxiety. Seems a little presumptive given that this blog has a likely readership of three or possibly four people. It’s hardly the telegraph now is it.

Anyone I have been trawling around

and I have found some interesting places

Like this one an online confessional

http://www.experienceproject.com/index.php

I should have had my blog here

I like the idea of a place where peopple can engage anonymously with out the rigmarole of a standard social netowrking site. Straight to the point, pour your heart out, no social niceties needed. Like drunken late night pshing with strangers.

No warm up. Just bleeding all over the floor.

It fits with the instant gratification that people seek. The clicking behavour. Sure there are still many conventions that need to be obeyed in cyber space. For a newbie seeking help, support, or friendship it might seem a long winded process, watching, lurking, platitudes then into the swing of things.

The process at the experience project seems more , I don’t know, more urgent maybe.

There is even a place to confess anonymously. A place to rid one self of shame, or to receive the flagellation that one believes one deserves.

Hell, I think it looks awesome and I’m about to go come up with a pseuodnym and go share some nasty secrets